tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5461044.post8834568013130510296..comments2023-10-24T11:03:41.388-05:00Comments on ladypoverty: RampartsJ.R. Boydhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09076895859826581960noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5461044.post-86056667837097161462010-07-29T17:31:38.251-05:002010-07-29T17:31:38.251-05:00Yep.
Often I have heard women lament the rules an...Yep.<br /><br />Often I have heard women lament the rules and roles that "society" places upon them -- to look like a "model," to be a "supermom," etc.<br /><br />There was a time I used to mock those sentiments, until I decided to switch away from my first, more traditional "career" to a very non-traditional line of work. At that point I started feeling the social standards and/or expectations, such as high achievement, "breadwinner," provider, and... going back toward your prior post... leader.<br /><br />The social expectations and obligations are there by dint of what our peers, our friends, our acquaintances, our co-workers, our family do, or say. And the ways people are rewarded with salary/pay, perks, privileges for the various choices they make, in labor and in extra-employment life -- these rewards tell us what "society" values.<br /><br />If I had to guess at why so many people exhaust intellectual, labor and existential energies in acts, positions, or employment that may seem destructive, deceitful, or improperly selfish, I am inclined to think it's because they look around themselves and see what is "paying" in 2010. <br /><br />And this, instead of looking inside themselves, and asking: what feels right, what is consistent with my true values, if I allow myself to not be influenced by what "society" allows, promotes, suggests, endorses.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com